I’m working with a coaching client at the moment who decided after 15 years with the same company to take an exit package and leave. He’s in his 40’s and had reached the point in his life where he felt bored, undervalued and under-appreciated in his company. He was also feeling tired and unmotivated in his personal life and he wanted things to change. He knew deep down that he had so much more to give. The life he was living was not making him happy. He knew he had to do something but he just didn’t know what or how. If I can share with you, I hear this all the time.
And I know how he feels. I’ve experienced that same frustration in my own life when I felt it wasn’t going to plan. The irony was I didn’t have a plan in the first place and this was the biggest part of the problem!
Question 1 - What Do I want ?
I see many people deeply attached to the life & career choices they've made, afraid to change, even when those choices make them desperately unhappy. But let's not go blaming circumstances or people. Instead, take the time to determine what you want but don't take action until you ask yourself the second question.
Question 2 - How Hard Are You Prepared to Work For It ?
The second big question is the tough one. How hard are you prepared to work for what you want ? How uncomfortable are you prepared to become to achieve what you want. Because you're going to have to start doing things differently if you want different results. Nothing worth having comes easily. Whether that's a loving relationship, well mannered kids, a successful business or a fantastic career it's going to take a lot of work.
"The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra" – Jimmy Johnson
Finding yourself unfulfilled in your 40’s is no laughing matter. But I want to reassure you that even minor adjustments can make a huge impact. It starts with a shift in your mindset.
When you know what you want and you're prepared to do the work then trust that great things will happen.
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