I’m giving up. I’ve had enough. Why the hell am I putting myself through this ordeal? I’m asking myself this question as I prepare for my Grade 1 Piano exam.
It all started two years ago when I blurted out to my coach during a rant (I won’t get into why here) that ever since I was a little girl I wanted to play piano. And just as I was overcoming the shock of hearing myself say this out loud, she asked me “so what are you going to do about it?” In my head I thought, well I’m just gonna moan & complain but I realised that wasn’t the answer she was looking for. So I took a deep breath and exclaimed: “I’m going to buy a piano!”. “A piano? You’re going to buy a piano? When?” she asked. “In the next two months”, I replied. Choking on the words. It was this coaching session that led me to begin my journey to learn piano. And this awful moment.
Now to be honest I can’t blame my coach for the stress and anxiety I’m feeling this evening. That’s a result of my own lack of focus and commitment to practice. And hearing my piano teacher tell me that if I was one of his kid students he’d be calling in my mother to give out about my lack of practice in the last few weeks. I’m not ready to do the exam. The shame of it ! I haven’t put in the work and I know it. But I’ll be damned if I’m going to let this exam go the way the last one did. If you haven’t read the story this is the link: What To Do When You F**k Up
We often hear of coaches who help their clients achieve amazing goals or develop high performing habits that transforms their lives & careers. Have you ever noticed how many successful people give credit to key people in their lives that made a significant impact on their careers? Struggling to gain clarity on their goals or unsure how to turn those goals into a reality, many say that it was the benefit of having a coach that helped them make significant progress. In fact coaching is seen as a significant catalyst for unlocking potential.
But we rarely hear that taking on ambitious challenges can lead to stress, anxiety and self-doubt. It can push us completely out of our comfort zone, and after all, what sane person would upset the status quo and intentionally introduce uncertainty into their lives? But what’s the cost if we don’t push our personal & professional boundaries and strive to shine bright ? Living a life in the shade doesn’t hold much appeal to me. And it shouldn't for you.
What are you afraid of ? What scares you? What would fire you up again ? Do you even know what it is? Because in my case I had buried my desire to play piano so deep that I’d forgotten about it. It took my coach to bring it to my awareness again. Then challenge me to do something about it.
So I’m curious. What goals are you trying to achieve? What will be different for you in 6-12 months time? What will have progressed or changed for you? Like everything in life, the more clarity you have in terms of what you’re looking for, the more likely you are of finding it. But we often need help finding our way out of the fog and gaining clarity.
My coach helped me achieve this in so many ways and for this I am eternally grateful.
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