I’m working with a coaching client at the moment who decided after 15 years with the same company to take an exit package and leave. He’s in his 40’s and had reached the point in his life where he felt bored, undervalued and under-appreciated in his company. He was also feeling tired and unmotivated in his personal life and he wanted things to change. He knew deep down that he had so much more to give. The life he was living was not making him happy. He knew he had to do something but he just didn’t know what or how. If I can share with you, I hear this all the time.
And I know how he feels. I’ve experienced that same frustration in my own life when I felt it wasn’t going to plan. The irony was I didn’t have a plan in the first place and this was the biggest part of the problem! I see this all the time.
I worry when I see that so many people feel they have taken a particular path in life, they’re hitting mid 40’s or early 50’s and they’re deeply concerned about what they’re going to do next. For some crazy reason, they fear they don’t have options. I would strongly argue that they have loads of opportunities it’s just that they’re not seeing them at that moment. You've heard me say this before, but if you don't know what you want then how the heck are you going to find it?
The second big question (after answering 'What do you want?') is 'How hard are you prepared to work for it?'
If you want to enjoy a successful, challenging and fulfilling career you're gonna have to work extra hard to achieve it. No one ever said it was going to be easy. But rather than avoiding the hassle and struggle we should learn to try and embrace it. It builds resilience, it builds character.
"The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra" – Jimmy Johnson
Finding yourself unhappy in your career in your 40’s is no laughing matter. But I want to give you reassurance and hope that you can change your lifestyle and career whenever you want. It takes a shift in your mindset.
Our behaviour is preceded by thought so it makes sense that we have to start changing our thoughts and be more mindful of what we're paying attention to. We each have an automatic mechanism in our brain that brings relevant information to our attention - our reticular activating system - which is what helps us to see/hear/become aware of opportunities & connections if we have a plan and mindfully focus on the right things.
It's for this reason that strategic plans, vision boards, wish lists and shopping lists etc. work so effectively. We're giving our brain direction.
When you have greater clarity in terms of what you want next in your career and you're prepared to do all it takes to make it happen then, believe me, great things begin to happen.
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